On Episode 46, Marla Mattenson returns with her partner Julian Colker who work together to coach couples in their relationships including how to use technology mindfully.
Some of the questions I ask:
- How to deal with devices and how they can potentially create rough spots when it comes to our intimate relationships [2.28]
- Why a pre-planned advance agreement between a couple is important to set each other up for success [5:07]
- How technology can be used to amplify the positive in your relationship [7:55]
- Ways that technology can make things simple for you and your partner[13:29]
- How much is too much communication via text message? [18:48]
- What are some suggestions for those who feel they can’t commit to a simple or disciplined technology use plan? [24:13]
- Upcoming in person workshop Marla and Julian have about touch [28:38]
What you’ll learn:
- Technology is a tool which can add value to your relationship and also take away from it [2:48]
- Pre planned advance agreements about technology between yourself and your partner [3:49]
- Close the gap of misinterpretation that can potentially happen when communicating through devices [5:39]
- Humans are now getting Dopamine and Serotonin hits which cause us to bond with our technology instead of bonding with our partner or other humans [7:30]
- How to use technology in a way to connect deeper with your partner’s love language [8:40]
- Ways to set an intention about wanting to grow with your partner [10:32]
- How sharing your calendar with your partner so they are aware of the times you are busy and free so they can plan things around your schedule [11:31]
- Use technology to keep track of things your partner likes on the phone [12:53]
- Starting your morning routine to engage a passionate relationship that doesn’t prioritize a technology first [14:48]
- Setting boundaries around technology use in your family [15:26]
- How to creatively communicate using technology [17:16]
- Ways to have an intentional digital detox [21:45]
- Have the belief that it’s possible to be disconnected from your phone [24:48]
- Ways to apply technology in a way to uplift and advance your life and relationship [25:30]
- What’s a thought each of you would leave about technology in relationships? [31:21]
Resources:
Apps: Love Nudge – talks about the 5 love languages you can sign up with your partner
Marla Matteson & Julian Colker’s workshop:
