Rachel & Kyle Wright, who are relationship coaches and fellow podcasters and have a series of programs and coaching packages for couples through the Wright Wellness Centre.

Tip of the Day: Have a designated documentor at a party or gathering you are going to

When you’re attending a party or a gathering with friends and you’d like to take photos or videos of the party, pick one person at that event who is going to be the “designator documentor.” Much like a designated driver, this is one person at that gathering who will be the only one who is documenting and posting. You could have a single person or rotate it every hour. Whichever way you structure it, it helps everyone there be present, experience the gathering and connect with the people there.

Some of the questions I ask:

  • From your personal and professional experience, what are some of the key issues or challenges that people face in their relationships in relation to social media and the online world? [3:07]
  • What do you suggest for people to do to break out of projecting and comparing themselves and their relationships to what they see on Reality TV and Social Media? [7:50]
  • How do you shift the time and the place in how you use your technology so you don’t feel like you’re giving it all up? [12:08]
  • How do you balance some of the things you post about yourself? [14:48]
  • What harm can come when you’re not being mindful when you’re posting or sharing on social media? [18:07]
  • So you shared an argument that you had via a Facebook live, can you tell me about that experience? [19:29]
  • What feedback did you receive from posting your video about the fight you had? [23:09]

What you’ll learn:

  • How couples go through “Comparisonitis” - where Instagram and social media platforms show highlights or posts and our minds want to believe that it is the norm and that’s the lives that people are leading. People take that to heart and compare and ask “Why are we not like them?” [3:35]
  • When other couples post about their relationship, a comparison is also made about how frequently you should be posting [4:18]
  • Technology is moving faster than our brains our evolving [5:58]
  • People view Reality TV and project their life and relationship onto it  [7:24]
  • Try to delete your apps for a day. It’s the weirdest, most confusing freedom but it will train you to stop yourself [8:15]
  • When you’ve taken a photo or video with someone, stay in the moment. Share it with your audience at another time. Don’t take yourself out of the moment to share on social media. [9:27]
  • Put your phone in airplane mode so you can use it strictly as a camera without being taken out of the moment. [11:16]
  • The All or Nothing state when it comes to using your technology: we rebound and rebel back so hard. Find that middle ground that helps you be more consistent. [13:03]
  • There’s no hard and fast rule when it comes to posting - it comes to what your intention is. Is it for validation? To share a lesson? Or is it related to your work? [15:40]
  • Being mindful about what you share about your relationship on social media. Ensure that you have your partner’s consent [18:25]
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